My Spouse Has a Secret Second Family: What Should I Do?

Although a secret second family might sound like a soap opera storyline, it is relatively common in Georgia. Spouses may keep these families secret for years or even decades without their exes finding out. But what should you do if you find out your spouse has been supporting a secret second family? What happens if you get divorced? 

What Might a Secret Second Family Look Like?

Secret second families can occur in several different ways. Perhaps the most notable example is when a spouse supports a “wife” and children in a second home. They might pay for their living costs, including their shelter. They may rent out an apartment for this second family and visit them from time to time while spending the majority of their attention on their “real” family. They may make numerous excuses to see this second family, perhaps by creating fictitious business trips. 

A second family may also occur in a more subtle manner. For example, a spouse might be approached by a long-lost love interest who informs them that they have an illicit child. A DNA test may confirm their paternity or maternity, and they may feel obliged to provide support. These agreements may be explicit or secretive in nature. A former love interest may even use this situation as an opportunity to conduct blackmail. 

What Happens if I Divorce a Spouse With a Secret Second Family?

One of the most important things to realize is that a secret second family may lead to higher settlements and alimony for divorcing spouses. If you can prove that your ex diverted marital funds toward this illicit relationship, you may be reimbursed for these expenditures. After all, it can be argued that these funds should have been spent on the “real” marriage instead. 

Another thing to consider is child support. With this new information “out in the open,” the spouse may no longer feel obliged to keep their illicit children secret. As such, they will be obliged to provide child support to both their illicit children and their children born in wedlock. This may lead to lower child support payments for each child since there are two families to consider instead of just one. 

Whatever the case may be, it is important to note that an extramarital affair is considered a form of marital misconduct in Georgia. As such, you can expect numerous advantages if you successfully prove the existence of this misconduct. 

Where Can I Find an Experienced Divorce Attorney in Georgia?

If you have been searching for an experienced divorce attorney in Georgia, look no further than Lankford & Moore Law. Over the years, we have helped numerous divorcing spouses, including those who have discovered serious misconduct committed by their exes. We know that these discoveries can be distressing and traumatizing, but you are not alone in this battle. Book your consultation today to discuss potential strategies as you move forward, including the possibility of divorce. 


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